How to Boost Your Childs Self-Confidence

Words of affirmation are half of a whole battle.‍

When my children have arguments amongst themselves, I like to hear both sides of the story. I take time to listen to one’s side, without interruption from the other party. Once finished, the other child has a chance to speak their side with the same respect. Most times (if not every time), when asked “What happened?” there is a pause. Can you guess what this pause is for?

In the heat of the moment, they have to step back from their emotions, and remember what was said. Although they have been arguing about it for X amount of time, they don’t actually remember most of the small details of the argument, rather than how those small details made them feel.‍

Sometimes how you say something has more of an impact than what you actually say.‍

Is it more often that you remember what was said in an argument, or how they made you feel? Do you remember the exact words your spouse said to you in your wedding vows, or do you remember how those words made tears stream down your cheeks as your heart fluttered with love?

Tony Robbins said, “Motion creates emotion.” Meaning your physical state affects your mental state.

Your goal is not only to say something positive to your child, but also to make them believe in what you are saying.

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So how do you bring your words to life?‍

Energy

• Talk with emotion and gestures. The bigger the better. If it does not look like you believe what you are saying, your child will not believe what you are saying. Smiles, high fives, jumping up and down, the tone in your voice, clapping, are examples of motions that represent your energy level.

Focus 

• Your attention should be focused solely on your child. Avoid looking at your phone, working on a task, or doing anything that draws attention away from your conversation. By doing this, you will create an atmosphere of importance and care for your child. Your child will feel seen.

If you want your child to believe what you are saying, you must first make them feel what you are saying.

Powerful words call for powerful presentation.

“If you want your child to believe what you are saying, you must first make them feel what you are saying.”